27 Jan 2015

Time To Let Go – Alzheimers’ and the preciousness of love

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time-to-let-go-cover-mediumThe Film Award Season is upon us and we see one of my favourite actresses, Julianne Moore, sweeping them in for an Alzheimers’ film “Still Alice”. I can’t wait to see it.  

The title resonates very well with me as this is one of the central messages about the subject in my novel  “Time To Let Go:” You can still find the person you love underneath the disease for a very long time. The symptoms are not the person and although the disease is changing the patient over time, the loved one is still in there.

My family situation has been affected by the disease, more than ever over the last five weeks. Heart-breaking moments 1of frustration, of losing all hope and courage were suddenly followed by brief lucid interludes and precious, warm exchanges, unexpected recognition and clarity.
For that the disease is both, a curse and a blessing. Two steps back and one step forward. Wishful thinking followed by disillusionment, resignation followed by hope.

From the patient’s perspective the environment becomes unfamiliar, confusing and threatening. A cruel fate that is beyond our imagination, I guess. Unthinkable! 

Our ‘patient,’ because of her additional heath issues, is now in a care home. There was no alternative.  Taking her there was one of the most difficult things I have done in my entire life. The guilt is over-whelming, despite the knowledge that this is in her best interest. 

So my message today is this:

Cherish each other while you still can, while you can still see the person you love under the layers of sickness and disease, temporary problems and circumstances. Hold on for as long as you can, until you know it is time to let go.  images

Family and love are precious. Make the most of it and never take it for granted. Thanks to victor who reminded me of this with his reflection on my book.

5.0 out of 5 stars the preciousness of love, January 26, 2015
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victor
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Wow. I think I say that after reading many books but still, wow.

Biddy, Walter Korhonen’s wife gets Alzheimer’s. After a lifetime together, Walter suddenly loses a partner in many ways & we see him struggle to make sense of it as he moves from denial to a type of acceptance. Their air hostess daughter Hanna fails to resuscitate a passenger in mid air after she collapses & as a result, faces a law suit. The Korhonen family strives to deal w/ personal loss even as they face deeper familial issues. The end is quite stunning & unexpected.

As a relatively young man reading this, I couldn’t help but long to hold the one I love close to me as I felt the preciousness of time. A lifetime of love unraveled simply by a disease is the most tragic of tales. If you love a good, heart wrenching story that will get you to reflect on your life then read this one. And have some Kleenex w/ you. You’ll need it.

4.0 out of 5 stars Family relationships and the impact of Alzheimer’s, January 25, 2015
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This was an interesting read concerning the complex relationships within families and how these relationships are effected by the mother suffering from Alzheimer’s. Although the exposure of the characters is somewhat limited, the book gives insight into the dynamics between siblings and the relationships between the children and their parents. At the forefront of the plot is the mother’s devastating illness and the husband’s struggles with trying to maintain normalcy for both he and his wife. Anyone exposed to Alzheimer’s would appreciate the struggles. Anyone who is part of a family will appreciate the human dynamics. Time to Let Go is worthwhile reading.

 

Time To Let Go:

Time to Let Go is a contemporary family drama set in Britain.
Following a traumatic incident at work Stewardess Hanna Korhonen decides to take time off work and leaves her home in London to spend quality time with her elderly parents in rural England. There she finds that neither can she run away from her problems, nor does her family provide the easy getaway place that she has hoped for. Her mother suffers from Alzheimer’s disease and, while being confronted with the consequences of her issues at work, she and her entire family are forced to reassess their lives.
The book takes a close look at family dynamics and at human nature in a time of a crisis. Their challenges, individual and shared, take the Korhonens on a journey of self-discovery and redemption.

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written by
Christoph Fischer was born in Germany in 1970 as the son of a Sudeten-German father and a Bavarian mother. ‘The Luck of The Weissensteiners’ is his first published work. He has written several other novels which are in the later stages of editing and finalisation.
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